Author: Sarah Knight
Anticipated pub date: December 31, 2019
Rating: 4.5/5 Stars
*Note: I received a free copy of the book through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.*
Are you burnt out from taking on more than you can handle or accepting less than you deserve? Tired of giving in instead of sticking up for yourself? Sick of saying yes all the time? You’re gonna love F*CK NO!
No is an acceptable answer, and it’s time to start using it. Whether you’re a People-Pleaser, Overachiever, Pushover, or have serious FOMO, bestselling “anti-guru” Sarah Knight helps you say what you really mean without being really mean–or burning out for fear of missing out.
Life is so much better when you say no with confidence–and without guilt, fear, or regret. F*ck No! delivers practical strategies that give you the power to decline, and concrete examples that put the words right into your mouth. You’ll discover:
The joy of no
No-Tips for all occasions
How to set boundaries
The No-and-Switch, the Power No–and how to take no for an answer yourself
And much more!
I pretty much worship at the altar of Sarah Knight witty, curse-filled wisdom, so I had high expectations for her latest self-help book.
In case you’re not familiar with her works, Sarah Knight has written four previous self-help books on the topics of not giving a f**k what others think, getting your s**t together, just being yourself, and staying calm in tense situations. I’ve read all of her previous books, own a few of them, and frequently pull them off the shelf when I need some advice. I find her advice to be practical, helpful and the survey results she includes make you realize you’re not alone with your messy life.
Saying no to other people is something I’ve always struggled with, and I’ve never clicked on ‘request ARC’ faster. I’m a bit of a reformed perfectionist but I still struggle with people-pleasing, which often leaves me saying yes to more things than my mental health can handle. So, I’m more than aware that I should say no more, but I’m more at odds about what exactly to say to people.
In this guide, Knight lays out several techniques for saying no for a variety of categories, including requests from strangers, telemarketers, friends, bosses, coworkers, and family. She offers several different types of ‘no’s’ for you to try. My favorite thing about this guide is that Knight is realistic about saying no. She values politeness and honesty when possible but realizes the value of a white lie in certain cases. She also points out that in some cases, saying yes can be more valuable to you in the long run than saying no, which is a sad but true fact of life. Sometimes, a little bit of annoy is worth more joy in the long run. BUT I do appreciate that Knight helps you draw a line between what is necessary and what is just more busywork for you.